Conflict Resolution Word Scramble
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Question | Answer |
DIALOGUE talk - managing yourself | *U - understanding first - suspend judgement *E-emotional self-management - hot to cool feelings |
Change HOT to ___ feelings | COOL |
How to cool down (4) | Breath from the diaphragm; relax muscles; change your ego state & voice to (from angry parent/frustrated child) to your calm Adult state |
Critical/angry parent words (8) | That's bad; You should..: You ought..' You never..; Be good..; Don't you..;Ridiculous..; You must... |
Critical/angry parent tones (8) | judgmental; frown/squint; critical; condescending; loud; disgusted/sneering; scheming; demanding; comparing... |
Critical/angry parent body talk (8) | wagging/pointing finger; feet apart/hands on hips; slaps/spanks; serious look; arms crossed/closed postre; foot tapping; disgusted look; pounds table... |
Frustrated child words (4) | I'm wrong; No!; I don't care; You'll be sorry!/ It's your fault! |
Frustrated child tone (4) | placating/sweet; angry; soft; silence (withdrawal - sulk) ; accusatory |
Frustrated child body talk (4) | innocent look; aggressive; withdrawn/timid; angrily; hurtful |
Appropriate Adult voice | ask questions: How; what; where; who and "I"-messages |
Appropriate Adult tone | modulated; appropriate; controlled/calm; confident; corresponds to feelings |
Appropriate Adult body talk | relaxed; thoughtful; looks up; wrinkled brow; attentive |
Assumptions of DIALOGUE talk | solve problems; I manage myself; we both have to change; my story is my story (obv. only to me); you have your story (obv. only to you); I have all the date when I listen to your story; I clarify my meaning only; how did I contribute to this situation? |
DIALOGUE style elements | Descriptive language; I-message; ask about their story; listen actively to get their meaning; open acknowledgement of their story; genuine support for them & efforts to resolve |
Listen actively and be a receptive _____ | listener |
Listen actively - FOUR DONT'S | DON'T: tell them what they SHOULD be thinking; or tell your story; or give your opinion/advice; or debate |
Open Acknowledgement (4) | situational - "this has happened before"; personal - "I was upset" or "you seem really upset"; disarming - "I'm no expert but..."; hypothetical - "if i'd been in your situation, I would have..." |
Genuine Support (2) | Affirm the other's right to disagree and give positive feedback "You are...+" or When I see/hear...I feel... |
IP Conflict Management | Conflict occurs when one person thinks that actions of another will prevent them from getting what they want or from being the way they want to be - fighting; striving to overcome; mastery; internal btwn choices /external btwn peopl |
3 levels of Conflict | (1) disputation - win by light CONTROL+reasoned argument; (2) Defence of Position - move to heavy CONTROL + -ve rhetoric ; (3) Destruction of relationship/other - win by heavy CONTROL + 'force' physical/psychological |
Orientations to conflict | predispositions - approach/withdraw; beliefs - productive/undesirable; motivations - winning vs mutal agreement |
Model of Conflict styles | y-axis: hi-lo assertiveness (goals) + x-axis: lo-hi cooperativeness (relationship) > hi-lo:forcing win-lose < CONTROL talk > lo-hi: accommodating lose-win; lo-lo:avoid/fear lose-lose; mid: compromising both win/lose> DIALOGUE talk: collaborating win-win |
Model of conflict management styles | postpone until you 'cool-down'; ignores conflict vs resolve; personal stakes not high; confrontation will hurt; little chance of satisfaction; avoid/delay = uncooperative/unassertive; passive (adapted child)/nurturing (parent) |
Forcing/competing | heavy CONTROL; goals important; force resolutions; win-lose; controlling parent/rebellious child ego states; sometimes better decisions compared to less effective compromised decisions |
Competitive Conflict Resolution | Hard competitive; adversarial; victory; concession based; hard on problem/people; distrust-postional |
Accommodating | relationships important; resolve thru giving; unassertive/passive CONTROL w/ adapted child; assertive/light CONTROL w/ nurturing parent; win (other) - lose; maintain relationship; people take advantage |
Compromising | focus on goals & relationships; resolve thru concession; mutual light CONTROL w/ some DIALOGUE; willing to forfeit some goals; elicits assertion/cooperative adult; win-lose or lose-lose; relationship maintained; less than ideal outcome |
Collaborating | value goals & relationships; find agreeable solution for all w/ DIALOGUE; adult ego state; win-win; conflict not settled until all happy; takes time & effort |
Nature of collaborative conflict resolution | issues are on the table for agreement; one party's stand = their answer; interests - underlying concerns affected by a deal - their needs |
Collaborative Principled Bargaining/Negotiation | never let position drive out interests; find out more - what does other really want?; ask why or why not Qs & listen; discover variety of interests * weave them together - create value vs demand bigger share of value on the table |
Collaborative Principled Bargaining/Negotiation | separate people from the problem; focus on interests vs positions; invent options for mutual gain; insist on objective criteria; be self aware w/ adult DIALOGUE talk |
Fair fighting | express feelings w/ I-messages; define bounds of vulnerability; focus on here & now; paraphrase & listen; take it w. grace; focus on behaviour & ideas; look for where you can agree; see how you can help other get what they want |
Describe | use descriptive language to explain situation; nonjudgemental; assume little/nothing; present data as you see them |
Asking Questions | open-ended; open up conversation w/ 4W2H Qs; then close-ended Qs; probe for facts & details |
4W2H Questions | Who; what; where; when; how & how much (never why) |
Keep positive | "how can we solve this?" vs " why can't we solve this!" or " I'm not sure I'm clear on the whole situation, could you tell me more?" |
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