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Habit 4 Study Guide
Be Proactive
term/question | definion/answer/notes |
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Win-Lose | high on courage, low on consideration. someone does not have to lose for you to win |
Lose-Win | low on courage high on consideration, insecure, looking for sympathy and easily taken advantage of. Just because someone else got first place, doesn't mean you lost. |
Lose-Lose | "If I'm going down you're going down with me". I you are confident you will win, why take away someone else's chance? Be fair to everyone. |
Win-Win or no deal | "We're going to win together". Having someone's back is very kind. If you think they deserve it, help them out. You being in second place does not mean you lost. |
People who think win-win or no deal live by what two principles? | Courage and consideration. |
Out of the categories, who see's life as a competition? | Win-Lose |
What category should you want to be in? | Win-Win or no deal. This is the best mindset to have. |
Deposit and withdrawal | deposit- something that helps the relationship withdrawal- something that hurts the relationship |
Good 'deposit' | do small acts of kindness, keep promises, keep confidence, by loyal to the absent, set clear expectations, apologize, forgive. |
What is a good promise sentence? | "I commit" |
Is it important to apologize and forgive? | Yes, this will healthily build the relationship. |
Should you apologize even if you're in the wrong? | Yes, because although in your mind you're not in the wrong, in their mind you are. It's all about perspective. |
What is a good example of being 'loyal to the absent'? | Not gossiping. Do not talk behind someone's. Not only is it wrong, but it is unfaithful of a friendship. |
Set clear expectations. Example? | "I will...", "We will...", "I'll make sure to..." |
Should you always forgive? | In my opinion, yes. Forgive and forget. God wants you to always forgive. Do not hold grudges. It doesn't only hurt them, but it hurts you too. |