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Habit 4:ThinkWin-Win
Question | Answer |
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Win-Lose Situation | You're always trying to get ahead of others or be better than other people. "I'm going to bear you no matter what." |
Lose-Win Situation | Permanent victim mentality. Insecure and not brave enough to stick up for yourself. "I always get stepped on." |
Lose-Lose Situation | If you can't win, nobody wins. "If I'm going down, you're going down with me." |
Win Situation | Students with this paradigm think only of themselves and not others. As long as they get their way they don't care how others do. "As long as I win, I don't care if you win or lose." |
Scarcity Mentality | The belief that the world is a pie and there is only so much of it go around. |
Abundance Mentality | There is plenty to go around for everybody. The "pie" can grow and grow forever. |
Win-Win or No Deal | "Let's find a solution that works for both of us." If I can't win, and you can't win, then let's forget it. I'd like to win, but not unless you win too. |
Find Out What a Deposit Is for the Other Person | What you think might be a deposit may be a withdrawal to the other person. You won't know unless you ask. |
Do Small Acts of Kindness | Treat people with kindness. |
Keep Promises | Make good on your word and be very careful before using the words "I promise" or "I commit". |
Be Loyal | Keep confidences. When someone shares something with you in confidence, keep it that way. Be loyal to the absent. Avoid gossiping or backbiting. |
Set Clear Expectations | Don't leave things fuzzy. |
Apologize | If you're in the wrong about something, admit it. Making excuses instead of making things better turns into an even bigger withdrawal. |
Give Feedback | Sincere, honest feedback is a deposit if done with tact, so let people know how you feel and what is a win for you. |
Forgive | Learn to forgive and forget so that you don't keep hurting yourself the way you were hurt. Don't let yesterday hold your tomorrow hostage. |