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Habit 4
| Term | Definition |
|---|---|
| Mine Point Habit 4 | Think Win-Win is about building effective relationships with people by working for their benefit while you are working for your own benefit |
| Win-Lose | "I'm going to beat you no matter what" |
| Lose-Win | "I always get stepped on" |
| Lose-Lose | "If I'm going down, you're going down with me" |
| Win-Win | "We're going to win together" |
| PRINCIPLES | Courage and Consideration |
| See | It's possible to win in such a way that others can win too. |
| Do | Balance courage and consideration./Make deposits in the Emotional Bank Account. |
| Get | More "wins" in life and better relationships. |
| Courage and consideration matrix | 4 squares |
| Win-Lose (upper-left corner) | low in consideration and high in courage |
| Win-Win or no deal(upper-right corner) | high in both courage and consideration |
| Lose-Lose(bottom-left corner) | low in both courage and consideration |
| Lose-Win(bottom-right corner) | high in consideration but low in courage |
| Emotional bank accounts (EBA) | The key to making friends is to deposit acts of kindness and helpfulness in their EBA and to avoid making withdrawals. |
| Do small acts of kindness | A second deposit is to treat people with kindness |
| Keep Promises | Do not break your promises. Be careful before using the words "I promise" or "I commit". |
| Keep confidences | When someone shares something with you in confidence, keep it that way. Be careful about what you spread around. |
| Be loyal to the absent | Avoid gossiping or backbiting |
| Set clear expectations | Don't leave things fuzzy |
| Apologize | If you're wrong, admit it. |
| Forgive | Learn to forgive and to forget so that you don't keep hurting yourself the way you were hurt |
| 2 rules for making deposit to EBA | 1. A deposit is only a deposit if the other person sees it as a deposit 2. It can take one or more deposits to make up for one withdrawal. |