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ch. 4
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Term | Definition |
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WIN - LOSE | -You cannot win unless other people lose, -" I don't need to outrun the bear I just need to outrun you." |
LOSE - WIN | -" have your way with me, everyone else does." -permanent victim mentality and always looking for sympathy. |
LOSE - LOSE | -" if I'm going down you're going down with me," -this is the type of mentality that seeks out revenge. |
WIN - WIN OR NO DEAL | -"you are going to win together" -balancing courage and consideration is the way to make others and yourself feel good. |
DEPOSIT INTO | -put into relationships what you expect out of them, if you put in little work how can you possibly expect great results. -think of relationships like a savings account you cannot save money for the future if you do not deposit money into your savings. |
WITHDRAWL FROM | pay attention to how you take away from a relationship, just like when you take money out of your bank account in order to get that amount back you have to contribute to the funds. |
SMALL ACTS | small gestures goes a long way, be genuine with your kindness, do not be kind in order to get something out of it. |
KEEP CONFIDENCES | gatekeep your friends secrets, don't be the untrustworthy friend. |
BE LOYAL TO THE ABSENT | -If you're gossiping with a friend about another friend just imagine what they gossip about you behind your back. |
SET EXPECTATIONS | -Present standards of how you expect to be treated by the people around you. -Do not allow people to walk over you, stand up for yoursel |
APOLOGIZE | -If you're wrong say it! -Do not make excuses for your behavior, you will never grow as a person when you're sitting on your own excuses. |
FORGIVE | -Do not dwell on something that cannot change. -forgive people and their behaviors in order to better your mindset. |