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Habit 4 Think Win-Wi
Terms/Definitions | Questions/Answers |
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Win-Lose | Always wanting to win at all costs. Where you gain another person loses |
Lose-Win | You have a permanent victim mentality. You always do what someone else wants |
Lose-Lose | If you lose everyone else does too. Also known as a "negative Nancy" |
Win-Win | Wanting both sides to win together or not all together. Not one person is above the other. |
What is an EBA? | EBA stands for Emotional Bank Account. |
What are forms of deposits into EBA accounts? | 1. Do small acts of kindness 2. Keep promises 3. Keep confidences 4. Be loyal to the absent 5. Set clear expectations 6. Apologize 7. Forgive |
What is a small act of kindness? | Example: holding the door for someone as they walk inside a restaurant |
What does it mean to keep promises? | Example: If you say you will help someone with homework make sure to do it. Don't cancel on them. |
What does it mean to keep confidences? | Example: If someone tells you something private do not go and repeat it to someone else. |
What does it mean to be loyal to the absent? | Example: Do not gossip about someone just because they are not around to defend themselves. |
How can you set clear expectations? | Example: In a group project assign a task to everyone and make sure they understand what their expectations on the assignment are. |
What does it mean to apologize? | Example: Apologize to someone if you know you did something wrong (gossiped about them, ignored them). |
What does it mean to forgive? | Example: Forgiving someone for talking about you when they were mad. |
What are 2 Rules for making deposits in an EBA account? | 1. A deposit is only a deposit if the other person sees it as a deposit 2. It can take one or more deposits to make up for one withdrawal |
What is the main point on making deposits? | The key to making friends is to deposit acts of kindness and helpfulness into their Emotional Bank Accounts and to avoid making withdrawals. |
What does it mean to make a withdrawal from an EBA account? | This means you have not complied with one of the seven concepts that define a positive deposit. |