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Habit 4
Think Win-Win
| Jennifer | |
|---|---|
| Win-Win | What you do in life is up to you, but helping others to win is just as important as your own win. |
| Win-Lose | If you are high on courage and low on consideration, you're always trying to get ahead of others or be better than other people. You can't win unless other people lose |
| Lose-Win | If you are low on courage and high on consideration, you're insecure. You're not brave enough to stick up for yourself. |
| Lose-Lose | If you can't win, nobody wins. You get revenge. |
| Make Deposits in other people's emotional bank account | The key to making friends is to deposit acts of kindness and helpfulness in their EBA and avoid withdrawals |
| Find Out what a deposit is for the other person | What may be a deposit for the other person may be a withdrawal in their mind. You won't know unless you find out. |
| Do small acts of kindness | Treat people with kindness. If you want to make friends, do the little kindnesses |
| Keep Promises | It is important to make good on your word and be very careful before using the words "I promise" or "I commit" |
| Keep Confidences | When someone shares something with you in confidence, keep it that way. |
| Be Loyal to the Absent | Avoid gossiping or backbiting. If you badmouth someone, the people listening to you will wonder if you're doing the same to them behind their back. |
| Set Clear expectations | Don't leave things fuzzy. Set clear expectations and follow though on what is expected. |
| Apologize | If you are wrong, admit it now. Don't wait. |
| Forgive | Learn to forgive and forget so that you don t keep hurting yourself the way you were hurt. |
| Rules for making deposits | 1. A deposit is only a deposit if the person sees it as a deposit 2. It can take one or more deposits to make up for one withdrawl. |