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You value each other as you are. You respect each other's emotional, digital and sexual boundaries. | One or both partners is not considerate of the other's feelings and/or personal boundaries. | One partner disrespects the feelings, thoughts, decisions, opinions or physical safety of the other. |
You believe what your partner has to say. You do not feel the need to "prove" each other's worthiness. | One person doesn't believe what the other says, or s/he feel entitled to invade their privacy. | One partner physically hurts or injures the other partner by hitting, slapping, choking, pushing or shoving. |
You are honest with each other, but can still keep some things private. | One or both partners tells lies. | One partner blames the other partner for their harmful actions, makes excuses for abusive actions and/or minimizes the abusive behavior. |
You make decisions together and hold each other to the same standards. | One partner feels their desires and choices are more important. | One partner tells the other what to wear, who they can hang out with, where they can go and/or what they can do. |
You both can enjoy spending time apart, alone or with others. You respect each other's need for time apart. | One or both partners only spends time with his/her partner. Your partner's community is the only one you socialize in. | One partner pressures or forces the other partner to do things they don't want to do; threatens, hurts or blackmails their partner if they resist or say no. |
You and your partner talk openly about problems, listen to each other and respect each other's opinions. | When problems arise, you fight or you don't discuss them at all. | One of you communicates in a way that is hurtful, threatening, insulting or demeaning. |