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Interpersonal Comm
Question | Answer |
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Define interpersonal communication | an association between two or more ppl who are interdependent and who have interacted for some period of time |
What is "role contamination"? | treating you as the 'role', not the person |
Axiom One: | a transaction requires mutual engagement in a social situation |
Axiom Two: | in a transaction, there is a simultaneous assignment of roles so that each person can interpret the others' interaction |
Axiom Three: | every transaction possesses an implicit set of rules that govern it - 1) content 2) behavioral |
Axiom Four: | an interpersonal transaction occurs over a period of time (small or large) |
what are the four stages of coming together? | initiating, experiment, integrating, bonding |
initiating | shy, anxious, don't know the rules yet: meeting |
experiement | begin to discover things about person (attitudes, beliefs) |
integrating | to become "an item" |
bonding | making a public statement that you will be together for a long time (marriage) |
what are the four stages of coming apart? | differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, terminating |
differentiating: | I, me instead of "we". more arguments and less energy directed towards finding commonality |
circumscribing: | Gothman's stages along with a slower rate, lesser amt. and shorter time of sharing info. predominance of 'safe topics' = gets BORING |
stagnating | 'xerox' relationship. same ol, same ol. not active, not moving forward, not looking for new ideas to have fun. |
what does Haskins say? | Variety is the spice of life! |
terminating: | ending the relationship |
breadth: | the scope of topics you can talk about |
breadth frequency: | topics that appear more often (ex: children) |
depth: | the degree of info. that you give (intimacy) |
What does Schutz say are your 3 key interpersonal needs? | inclusion, love, and control |
empowerment: | helping ppl get a sense of control over their life |
self-disclosure: | opening up |
why do ppl not like to self-disclose? | fear, risking credibility |
Actual def. of self-disclosure: | has the self as content, is intentional, is directed @ the other person, is honest, is revealing (depth), contains info. generally unavailable from other sources, gains much of its intimate nature from the context in which it's expressed |
what are some tips for self-disclosure? | 1) realize self-disclosure is a dialogue 2) should be clear and to the point 3) risks are involved 4) make the amount and type appropriate to the context |
what are the 3 attributes of interpersonal attraction? | physical appearance, level of competence, and attitudes |
your soulmate will... | most likely be someone similar to you! |